Friday, January 29, 2010

Lashing out...

There again..... Im angry...... and im venting.... My blog is a real stress buster. I cant rave n rant to people. Im better off de-steaming here.
Came across this page on facebook called happy tail. Im no ignorant fool. I know there are breeding centres for dogs but somehow coming face to face with a breeder left me fuming.
It wasnt always like this. As a child, I loved the prospect of having an alsatian. I was jealous of my friend who had a golden retriever. the concept of breeding was a good one. It meant people who took care of dogs. How long does it take to come out of childhood's innocence???? Man's commercial nature...well...the less said the better.
I get downright pissed now when I hear people buying dogs, and mind you, they are all animal lovers. of course I dont show it..... I dont want to make them squirm in discomfort when I'm around so I'm tolerant and have a half smile pasted on my face just so that they don't get a full picture of whats running in my head.

I'm sure that will seem a little extreme and standoffish. But if I try to analyse why Iv actually become that way, I realise it's just a matter of circumstances.

My first experience in a local animal shelter. I walked in. I was met with a crescendo of wails and moos from retrievers, german shepherds, labradors, chi hua huas, dachshunds, cats, cows. It almost awakened my reflexes of bringing my hands to my ears. The pitch n volume just increases when they see you distributing food. But there are some dogs that amaze me. They do not want your bread or milk.They want you.

They salivate over the prospect of a pat, a nudge or just being scratched behind their ears and when you turn their back at them to feed another deprived dog, the wailing begins again.
An old blind bull mastiff, with fading proof his majesticity was lying in a corner. His eyes were infected with pus oozing out and when enquired about his background, was told that because he was too old n sick, his owners gave him up. It just broke my heart to see him lying there with all hope wiped out of his eyes. he dint want the food we had got for him. He just lay there with an empty distant look waiting for death to put him out of his misery.

Call me a sissy, but I cried. and I still have a lump in my throat as I type this.

and thats why I get angry when people buy dogs from breeders. There's no need to breed any more of them. There are already more than we need. If you scan all the animal shelters in your city u'l find that one little fella or that one big brat that ul make an instant connection with.

He might be lame or blind or he might look like he's a cross between a porcupine and a dog but he's yours. They cant be less loving than the brand new pup u take home with a red satin ribbon tied around that shining coat.....remember, its a drop that makes an ocean.

U might not be the types to abandon ur old bull mastiff but u could also be the one who can compensate for the ones who do.

I have a dream.... where im taking a big, old and blind dog home. and Il call him Ross.
Wishing for more Happy tails!!! :) :) :) :)
Spread kindness..... :) not cruelty......

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Manzheimers.....

Ever heard of Alzheimer's??? Most common form of dementia charecterised by memory loss.
A new term coined by my friend -Manzheimers...... :) affecting all men regardless of age, even as young as 26.....
and when does this manifest?? When men have to remember their girlfriend's / spouse's bday... their anniversary.....important things requested by the women in their life.... Including grocery....
I dont get it... At work, the guy is known as a responsible person, who does things very sincerely. Its just not me... it bothers every woman on the planet.... My dad forgot mom's bday, he forgot their anniversary.... my friend's dad forgot his mom's bday..... my friend forgot his own anniversary....... What the ...Flower!? ;)
A glimpse of a manzheimers conversation....

11.45 PM - "Hey baby....... ur turning 25 tomorrow"......
"Yup.... Turning 25 tomorrow.... :)"
..... sweet nothings to n fro.......
00.00 hours - zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz..........................
waiting.... waiting.... waiting............
2:00 Am - SMS arrives ----- Hi baby, Happy birthday!!! :) :)

What does a woman do in such circumstances......
Have a tiff..... ???
No. bad idea.
Grin and bear...... and ignore........
Accept them just the way they are... No point ending up with a blood pressure of 180/ 110 mm Hg.....

P.S - My birthday is on the 13 th of April - Kindly wake a certain MR Jaysal up sharp at 12 midnight ( if u happen to know him) n remind him to call me up!! Thanks! :)


Saturday, January 9, 2010

Complimentary criticism

Hmmmm..... been thinking about this one for quite some time.... my hands have been itchin to type... Jaysal heard me a little then I realised I might be coming off a little too strong & intense. Im best when I type,the worst when I talk...
I was just wondering about criticism...... Not the professional kinds.. the personal variety.. U know.. Let me give u an example -

Rahul has lost quite a bit of his hair .....
I say -"rahul - look at u.... ur hair s done the vanishing act..." Everyone around me hollers. Rahul tries to be sportive and smiles back saying "yeah.... ,i guess so" a little awkwardly.

scene II - I see that rahul's balding..... I say"Hi rahul, Long time.... how have u been?" Rahul smiles back at me and we have an amicable conversation....Everyone else joins in... We all decide to hang out at the cafe. All of us end up having a great time.

scene III : Rahul asks me "hey Mansi, Iv been thinking of a hair transplant..... but im not sure.... what do u think? is it bad?" and I say - "ummm...rahul, yeah i think so.... U should go in for it...That way ul feel more comfortable and ul look really nice...."
:) :) :)

Just being critical about something or someone does not make one honest and straightforward. It makes us mean & vindictive.

Yes..of course when asked for an opinion giving a straight answer might give you some honesty points......

Thats where the whole concept of Constructive criticism raises its head.

If I put on a couple of kilograms I dont want some crap of a person telling me that every time i'm spotted. My weighing machine comes in handy for situations like that...,
U see....the whole point is No one's losing their millions.... I dont have to pose for Vogue..... neither have any inclination to register for a beauty pageant (I'm too old for it anyway!!)

I'm comfortable in my skin Baby...... and My love loves me just the same.......[i'm never gonna ask him if iv put on weight...;)happy he, happy me ;) ;)]

So I'm going out there and showering people with compliments (genuine ones) and if they dont deserve to be complimented then Im shutting the **** up...... ;)

:) :) :)

Compliments of the season to u!! :)