I was just wondering about criticism...... Not the professional kinds.. the personal variety.. U know.. Let me give u an example -
Rahul has lost quite a bit of his hair .....
I say -"rahul - look at u.... ur hair s done the vanishing act..." Everyone around me hollers. Rahul tries to be sportive and smiles back saying "yeah.... ,i guess so" a little awkwardly.
scene II - I see that rahul's balding..... I say"Hi rahul, Long time.... how have u been?" Rahul smiles back at me and we have an amicable conversation....Everyone else joins in... We all decide to hang out at the cafe. All of us end up having a great time.
scene III : Rahul asks me "hey Mansi, Iv been thinking of a hair transplant..... but im not sure.... what do u think? is it bad?" and I say - "ummm...rahul, yeah i think so.... U should go in for it...That way ul feel more comfortable and ul look really nice...."
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Just being critical about something or someone does not make one honest and straightforward. It makes us mean & vindictive.
Yes..of course when asked for an opinion giving a straight answer might give you some honesty points......
Thats where the whole concept of Constructive criticism raises its head.
If I put on a couple of kilograms I dont want some crap of a person telling me that every time i'm spotted. My weighing machine comes in handy for situations like that...,
U see....the whole point is No one's losing their millions.... I dont have to pose for Vogue..... neither have any inclination to register for a beauty pageant (I'm too old for it anyway!!)
I'm comfortable in my skin Baby...... and My love loves me just the same.......[i'm never gonna ask him if iv put on weight...;)happy he, happy me ;) ;)]
So I'm going out there and showering people with compliments (genuine ones) and if they dont deserve to be complimented then Im shutting the **** up...... ;)
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Compliments of the season to u!! :)